In the beginning, there was the word — at the very least, “Hey.” But what comes next? Here’s how not to lose a promising match and what truly makes your chats stand out (or flop).
A quick guide to digital dating etiquette
71% get annoyed by missing punctuation.
85% appreciate fast replies.
57% prefer multiple short texts over one big chunk.
66% would rather have a phone call than a video call after texting.
30% expect to meet up the very next day.
1. You hate punctuation? Well, she doesn’t.
Maybe you don’t care, but punctuation matters. In fact, 71% of people say it drives them crazy when someone forgets basic marks — like a “?” at the end of a question.Think about it:“Will you give me a massage))” vs “Will you give me a massage?))”
Big difference, right?So… are you going to start using question marks? Oops, sorry — are you?
2. Don’t play hide-and-seek.
Fast replies = green flag.
That’s what 85% of people say. It means you’re actually interested, not just collecting matches or orbiting — keeping someone on the back burner while chasing “better” options.
No time to chat? Just say so:
“Glad you texted! I’m a bit tied up right now, but I’ll be free in two hours — and I’ll tell you everything then.”
Simple. Honest. Attractive.
3. Keep it short and sweet.
57% of people prefer several short messages over one long essay.
It feels like a real-time convo, not like you’re responding through PR filters and legal approval.
The rule is simple: the more natural, the better.
4. Babe, let’s talk — for real.
After a few messages, 66% would rather switch to a good old-fashioned phone call.
It helps build real connection and comfort.
Video calls or video messages? Save those for confirming your match is real before meeting IRL — or for staying in touch after a great date (or, well, for a little virtual flirtation).
5. Don’t stall.
Set up a date sooner rather than later. Otherwise, interest fades — not because your match is boring, but because the temptation to swipe “just one more” is always there.
It’s a trap.
74% believe a meetup should happen within a week of matching.
44% think it should happen within two days.
And 30% want to see you within 24 hours.